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Do you Judge Others?

Nadine Jones
Mar 12, 2017
2 min read

From time to time we all look at other people and in our mind question their actions asking ourselves “why do they do the things they do”. Sometimes we can find ourselves thinking “they should know better” and “they should be better”. Every time you should someone you are making a judgment.

When you make a judgement you are making a decision that the way things are, or who people are is not the way it SHOULD be. Your judgment reflects your belief in right and wrong based on what you currently believe. Your judgement reveals your attitude of superiority that says you have the right to determine what must be done, how it must be done and who must do it.

Judgement is a means of control. It is an attempt to get people to do what you need and want them to do in order to feel better about yourself.

A judgement is often a sign of fear. You judge other people because you’re not comfortable in your own skin. By judging, you find out where you stand in relation to other people. The judging mind is very disruptive. It separates. Separation closes your heart. It increases feelings of dis-connection.

If you close your heart to someone, you are prolonging your suffering and theirs.

Shifting out of judgment means learning to appreciate where you are and where they are with an open heart. Then you can allow yourself and others to just be. People are who they are and do what they do whether or not you like it or agree with them. We each have different lessons to learn. We each take a different path to our lessons.

When you get frustrated because something isn’t the way you thought it would be, notice your thought, not just the thing that frustrates you. You may see that a lot of your frustration is created by your ideas of how you think the universe should be and your inability to let go of control and allow it to be as it is.